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12 minutes agoAuthor: Kamala Badoni
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It is very easy for someone to make assumptions in their mind. But nobody thinks about how much damage it can cause. Why do we become so judgmental?
Today in the chat room the discussion was about a couple where the wife complains that the husband is becoming critical towards her. The relationship counselor Dr. Madhavi Seth understood the problem and suggested the right solution.
My husband believes that I fight with him at home and act lovingly in front of others outside the home. They believe my behavior is hypocritical. I think we can’t be artificial at home. But one should not talk about home affairs in front of others. Am I wrong?
It is common to have minor disputes between husband and wife. This happens with every couple. But it is not right to take home matters outside.
avoid making assumptions
It is not right to make preconceived notions in any relationship. If your husband sees your behavior as hypocritical then you should talk to him about it. Love, trust and mutual understanding are very important in the relationship between husband and wife. Without this, distance can grow in the relationship.
There are two sides to every relationship. One is the bonding they share amongst themselves and the other is the behavior they present in front of people. It is not right to make misconceptions about each other.
You tell your husband that when you are at home, you tell him everything openly like a true friend. Interrupting about wrong things. But when the two of you are out of the house, you take care of both of your images. You don’t want people to see you two fighting each other. This can ruin the image of both of you.
Your husband will understand your point by lovingly explaining it. If the problem is not resolved through negotiation, ask for help from an expert.
think before you speak
It is very easy to be critical of someone. For this you do not have to do anything separately. You have to say whatever comes into your mind about someone. But your words can cause great harm to the other person.
Side effects of making assumptions
It is not right to be judgmental towards anyone. Being critical of someone is often one-sided. When you share your opinion about someone among friends or at an event, then knowingly or unknowingly those people also form the same impression about that person.
You said this person shows a lot, pretending to be busy. This woman would wear makeup even at home and would not take care of her family and children. Your statement changes the mind of so many people towards that person. That person is not even aware of how much loss they have suffered.
Your hypothesis may or may not be correct. Many times a person’s behavior changes due to circumstances. But instead of understanding his situation, we judge him by his behavior. Without knowing the truth, without thinking about it, we form our opinion about it. It is not right to do this. This increases the distance in the relationship and because of you the image of the other person becomes tarnished.
The benefits of not making assumptions
The biggest advantage of not making any assumptions about anyone is that there is no negativity of any kind in the mind. When meeting or talking to someone, we don’t have any preconceived idea in our mind. We meet others with an open heart, which reflects positivity in our conversations.
When we don’t make assumptions about someone, even if the other person’s behavior seems strange, instead of making assumptions, we believe that we don’t know what situation he is in, that’s why he behaves this way.
ask yourself questions
We leave this question to you is it right or wrong to make any assumption in your mind about someone? Does this bring you a profit or a loss? You decide what you want to do.
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