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8 hours agoAuthor: Shivakant Shukla
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this In this busy life, everyone is busy with themselves. Nobody has time. In such a situation the person has become a robot. It has become difficult to share my feelings with anyone. Perhaps this is the reason why anger and discontent are increasing among people and its effect is visible from the office to the home.
The Washington-based international company Gallup releases a Global Emotional Survey report every year. According to the report of the year 2023, 54% of people worldwide experience loneliness and depression. According to the Gallup report for the year 2021, 23% of the world’s people were victims of severe anger. If we look at the reports of recent years, this number is continuously increasing.
But this emotion is not just limited to anger. This anger gradually creates tension and then later creates conflict. Because of this, sometimes there are arguments and disputes at home with family members and sometimes with the boss or colleagues in the office.
But the thing that can be seriously seen here is how fatal this conflict proves to be to a person’s mental-physical health as well as his career and his family life.
so today ‘relationship’ In the column we will tell you in detail, and we will also know that-
- How does conflict cause harm?
- How can conflicts be resolved?
How does conflict in relationships hurt you?
If you have an argument with a family member at home, it will definitely bother you mentally. This will have a negative impact on your work and family life. For example, if you argue with your partner, your whole day will be ruined. Also, even after going to work, you will not be able to work completely.
Ken Sand is a well-known American life coach, famous as a conflict expert. He has nearly 40 years of work on conflict resolution. He has also written a book on this subject, ‘Resolving Everyday Conflict.’ In his book, Kane explains the dangers of conflict in great detail.
Why do conflicts occur?
Ken Sand writes that the biggest reason for conflict is ego or ego conflict. Whatever issue is being debated, it may not really be a big deal, but it is becoming a big deal. That’s why Ken writes that to understand any conflict, we should ask ourselves some important questions-
how to resolve conflict
After getting to the bottom of the conflict and understanding it, the most important question now is how to resolve it. For this too, Ken Sands gives some important tips.
Check out the graphic below, then let’s talk about it in detail-
communicate directly
Instead of complaining to others, talk directly to the person you have a problem with. This will reduce the chances of estrangement between the two and your mind will also feel lighter by expressing your feelings. Talking directly is more effective than texting on the phone or complaining to everyone. However, you will have to control your language when speaking.
choose the right time
Plan ahead and give yourself plenty of time for the conversation. For example, don’t start talking about the conflict while the other person is preparing dinner. Try to talk in a quiet place where you can both discuss calmly. This will help both of them understand each other’s thoughts and feelings.
plan ahead
Think ahead about what you want to say. Explain to the other person what the problem is and how it affects you. Take enough time for this too. Planning ahead will facilitate discussions.
avoid blame
Anger towards the other person makes it difficult for them to listen to you and understand your concerns. Don’t blame the other person for everything or start the conversation with your opinion about what should be done.
Discuss the issue and listen to the other side
Do not discuss the other person’s behaviour. Instead, share your feelings. Give the other person a chance to fully present their side. Try to understand how the other person feels.
Show that you are listening
Even if you don’t agree with what is being said, let the other person know that you are listening and are happy that you are discussing the problem together.
do not speak in vain
Once you start the conversation, get all issues and feelings out in the open. Don’t skip the part that seems too ‘difficult’ to discuss. If all the issues are discussed in depth, a solution will definitely be found.
work on solutions
When you get to the solution topic in the discussion, start working on it. Follow up the promised changes in mutual behavior completely.
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